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If Dad Hadn’t Died …

0 Posted by - April 14, 2016 - Breaking Barriers, Careers Circle, Role Models, Women Live Your Dream

Sandi Boucher

By Sandi Boucher

If Dad hadn’t died, I would have been Prime Minister by now.

If he had lived, I would have continued on the path he so carefully built for me.  I would have continued believing in his view of me, believing in my abilities, believing in my intelligence.  I wasn’t ever better than anyone but OH MY GOD the way my mind worked!  He was in awe of my intelligence, of my problem-solving abilities and he SHOWED it, and I ate it up.

I ate it up.

If he hadn’t died, I would have continued believing … but he did.  And without his constant reassurance and encouragement, I was the dancer without an audience, the singer without music to accompany me. I was lost and floundering and looking for someone … anyone.

If he hadn’t died, I wouldn’t have latched on to the first man who told me I was beautiful, the first one to promise me a life, the first one who told me I was special.  I would have remembered I was but I didn’t.

I didn’t.

So when the false praise turned to criticism, I tried harder.  I needed that praise. I wanted that praise. I knew I could EARN that praise. I just had to try harder … but he wasn’t Dad and he was never going to give me that praise.  No one could, except for me.

So if Dad hadn’t died, maybe I would be Prime Minister right now … but I would have never learned how important self-esteem is or how it comes from SELF and not any other source.  I would never have learned how low I could go or that I was strong enough to climb back out again.

And I would never have learned to stand as tall as I do now … if Dad hadn’t died.

Food for thought.

Note:  Sandi Boucher, is the founder of Traditionally Speaking.ca Indigenous Speaker’s Network

 

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